Some view being transgender as a gift, while others a curse. Do you feel you’re a victim of the transgender condition?
Regardless of what you feel, or believe, being a victim is a choice!. That’s right, it's a choice.
While the internal feelings may not be a choice, what you DO about it is.
How does that make you feel? Most of us have spent parts of our lives lives wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” And then after decades of purge and repeat crossderssing behavior -- that made us feel a mix of shame, guilt and the need to search our soul for the truth of these internal feelings of self identity --, some of us have slowly learned to accept in ourselves that which society often mocks, or worse, condemns.
And those social pressures of “Normal,” can at times, push us to cloud or distort our own choices in an attempt to conform to the opinions and expectations of others (and maybe ourselves too).
But the truth is that EVERYTHING we do in life is a choice. If you’re biologically wired in the wrong body, then the natural manifestation of that is for many (maybe for all) to transition to the opposite gender. And while those individuals will claim “I had no choice, it’s who I am,” the reality is that they make a choice to follow their natural intuition.
And for the others, those that cross-dress for reasons they can’t comprehend, but at the same time don’t identify as the opposite gender on a full time basis -- they are content to cross-dress on occasion -- they too make a choice to indulge that desire.
Neither is a good thing or a bad thing: it's the choice we make, and that’s O.K. Each person has a life to live, and should so do so in accordance with their own quest for fulfillment, happiness, self-expression and contentment.
The point I am getting at is that is there is no justification required for the life you live: it’s YOUR life, YOUR decision.
As such, weigh out what you want vs. what you can achieve, and then don’t be anyone’s victim. Life throws us obstacles: everyone has to deal with them. Regardless of whether you’re transgender, gay, tall, short, skinny, fat, smart, not, we all have crosses to bear.
In my friend Daylle’s blog, she so eloquently notes that “I Can’t” often means “I Won’t.” And to bring it into focus she points our attention to Mark Goffeney, who travels the world playing guitar --- with his feet, because he is without arms!
There are no victims in this life; only those choose to push forward, and those that don’t.
If you want -- or need -- to transition, then do it. If you find crossdressing disruptive in your life, then quit.That’s not to lightly suggest that doing either is easy; it’s not. But nothing is foretold; you don’t HAVE to do anything in particular. only that which you choose.
Take control of your life, and never again be anyones elses victim.
Agree? Disagree? you’re entitled, tell me what you think below.
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